Eric and I met Jo.. while she was in Labor!! My first thought was... I hope I look OK... I hope she likes us... I hope I can remain calm and loving and not make this about me. I was excited to meet Vivi and be a mom but I was also just about to come face to face with the mother of our little girl. How was this possible! As I am walking towards her room, I am worried about how I looked, if she will think we are too old? If we showered... how should I act...
I walked in, I saw Randi. And it was like my sister was there in that bed. I immediately was at peace, I just wanted to hug her and let her know we cared about HER.
JJ snuggled into a chair and Eric and I began to get to know Lori, her sister and Jo. In the midst of labor....we had to leave a few times, and she needed to sleep, Lori had to run home and I was on duty to keep her company. Pastor Mark came to the hospital and sat with us, he played with JJ for a little while. I could not believe he came to sit with us. He told us how he and his wife adopted their 2 boys.
This blog post could not be as long.... as the day was... Vivi was born at 8pm after many hours of labor and finally had to be a Cesarean section. It was a long and very anxious day!!
Once Vivi was born, things seemed to be confusing... Jo wanted to see Vivi first. There was not much communication from the hospital to us. We were given a room for the night... and I thought it would be an hour or so and I would see her. I was having total mom freak out... I wanted to be in the NICU when she was there... I didn't want her to be alone. They would not let us see Jo. Around 10pm we made the decision to send JJ and Eric back the hotel. I stayed a the hospital in the room they gave us. It was a regular hospital room. I did not bring a blanket, so I was freezing. I was also NOT their patient and I was pretty much ignored for the entire night. I was so confused and tired and did not understand. I thought all of a sudden they didn't see me as the "other mom".
I had my ipad, so I put on Christmas music and prayed all night for Jo and Vivi. I prayed hard especially when I started to get scared.... maybe she would change her mind. Viv is all alone. I prayed hard and I knew this was a special time, and Vivi was in NICU, she had all the care she needed. There would be time to shower her with love when the time was right. I also was worried. Jo was also alone. She had been in labor all day and now was recovering from surgery. I was praying all day she would not have a Cesarean. I didn't want her to recover from surgery for weeks, a constant physical reminder of the adoption. But I eventually slept and when I woke up my amazing husband and JJ were there!!! He said, Jo is asking to see us! SO we can see Vivi!
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